Blog Every Day in May {Day 30}

Day 30, Thursday: React to this term: Letting Go


I think letting go is one of those things that's easy to talk about, but not so easy to do. At least for me anyway.
I think it's a lot easier for me to let go of things now, than they've been for me in the past. And I think that comes from lots of experience with it, and learning from situations.

When it comes to love relationships and letting go, I've learned to look at the reason it ended. What did I get from it that I want in another relationship? What do I absolutely NOT want? It took me a LONG time to be able to focus on that, as opposed to the sorrow associated with a "lost love." But I swear, it has helped me so much, and gotten me to where I am now.

When it comes to friendships, I find this sometimes even harder than love relationships. Probably because I know how hard it is to find good friends who you can count on. But, in that same vane, if things aren't working out in your friendship, then maybe it isn't as good of a relationship as you thought. Or that it used to be. I've learned that surrounding yourself with people who support you and are there for you, no matter what, is SO important in being an emotionally healthy person. It's important to be with friends who are able to admit when they've hurt you, and who you feel comfortable doing the same with. 
Stress is no good for you mentally, or physically, so focus on the people who make you better, especially when you're having a rough time. 
Bottom line is, it's hard to let go. But, in order to move forward and become an even better version of you, it's necessary to "let go"...of hurt, pain, grievances, etc. Sure you can still have an emotional attachment to someone, on some level, but don't let it consume your thoughts. It's not worth it, and the only person you're holding back is yourself. Not to mention that all of the time you're spending thinking about them, is time that someone who is even better can't get in. 

And you certainly don't want that!

So, I think this turned into relationship advice, but oh well! It's what I know in my 30 years of life experience, so you can take it for what it is! :)

**Come back tomorrow...the proposal story is coming!!!**

7 comments:

  1. I think the same things, too! The "consuming" part is what gets to me the most and that is what is hardest to let go of. It's always a work in progress!!

    Have a fab day!!

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  2. It is interesting that you mention friendships being so hard to get go of. I have been struggling for weeks over losing a couple of close friends.

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  3. Letting go is hard, but it's SO FREEING!!!! :)

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  4. My comment didn't publish from your post the other day...so I will say again, CONGRATULATIONS! I am so excited for you and cannot here more about it!

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  5. Such great advice. Oh and so looking forward to the engagement post.

    Mel
    http://mels-corner.blogspot.com/

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  6. Love this post! And agree with you 100%. Can't wait for tomorrow!:)

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  7. This was a good post and it was well written! I love what you said about wasting time on a bad relationship and stopping something even better from dropping your lap.

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